-Question asked by Anonymous
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Dannielle Says:
The other day i wore a tie bc I was TRYING to be a boy.
Then I was listening to Nicki Minaj bc I was TRYING TO BE BLACK.
After that I was eating some tacos bc I JUST WANT TO BE MEXICAN.
No, ANONYMOUS, that is not how it works. We are not programmed at birth with tunnel vision. And we are not stereotypes of what you believe to be true. I know that life is a lot easier if we see everything ONE way and there is no grey area, but that’s not how it is, you guys.
I really wanna yell and yell about how ignorant you are, but the truth is, every single person on this planet has trouble understanding someone who isn’t like them…and that’s okay.
I challenge you to open your mind and heart just a little bit and try to understand what you think ‘doesn’t make sense.’ We are not all the same and we are not all striving to be something that ‘does make sense.’ We are simply living our own lives, trying to be comfortable in our own skin, and hoping to be understood and loved for who we are. If anything, you understand that, don’t you?
Kristin Says:
Can I ask you something, Anonymous? If these lesbians you speak of were trying to be a straight couple… why would they not just go and find a couple of boyfriends? It isn’t like trying to be an astronaut (which takes so much practice and skill) or trying to be Turkish (which requires that you be Turkish), it literally just requires you to say, ‘Oh, hey, I really want to be in a straight relationship, so I am going to figure out what that means to me and go and date some boys.’
…which, right out of the gates is a very over-simplified version of what ‘being straight’ even means…
This concept of yours (and of so many others) makes very little sense to me. Are you attracted to the clothing of people? Do you think that the type of pants one wears is reflective of their genitalia or of their gender-identity? If both of these lesbians identify as women, what about them apart from the threads on their bodies makes you think that one is ‘trying to be a boy,’ or that they are both, ‘trying to be straight?’ Further, if one of them does identify as a boy, are you then saying that they are a straight couple? Or that they cannot be because one used to have a uterus, or still does? Or that they will always be trying at something because who they are doesn’t make sense to you?
DO YOU SEE HOW CONFUSING THINGS ARE WHEN YOU TRY TO MAKE THEM BLACK & WHITE?!
Sorry for yelling.
What is complicated about human beings is that, in this relationship you speak of, one of the couple may be attracted to the curves of the other, as accentuated by the large belt buckle and crisp, buttoned down shirt that those curves are housed within. There’s a ton of trouble in even calling one thing ‘masculine’ and another thing ‘feminine,’ but for the sake of brevity, let me just say that - for most of us - it is how those aspects of another individual interact with each other that attract us to them, not the fact that they are EXCLUSIVELY female/feminine or male/masculine.
The short answer, Anonymous, is no, it is most unlikely that these lesbians are ‘trying to be a straight couple.’
The more complicated answer is that, in a sense, perhaps there are elements of their relationship that play with notions of masculine and feminine - just as there are elements of imagining and play and fantasy in every relationship, ever. That doesn’t boil down to one of them ‘trying to be a boy,’ or both of them ‘trying to be straight.’ You cannot boil down sexuality to it’s simplest bits and call it a day. We are all much too complex for such nonsense.
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